When we can see the baby as sacred, that it is not they but a culture that restricts their natural needs that is the annoyance, we will progress as a species. We are not born for the money-nexus, to fit into the neat pocket that work and other demands allows in the lives of parents. We evolved for eons to expect a love-nexus at birth and have full access to our parent's love. Thus the "annoying baby" is a baby that needs a more natural way of living, to have what its biology expects rather than fit into a neat mould.
If I had the chance for a more natural way to live, the time to focus on my baby, she would be so happy. If we had the time our ancestors did to sit under the sky, upon warm grass and sing, or carry her with me all day long as I did the things that needed to be done, she'd be so relaxed and so would I. And so, as she cries and screams I try to remember that and keep the love in my heart that is her medicine. Sometimes it breaks me to stay so soft when the pain is so great, but I'd rather do that than say the unpleasant things I hear other stressed parents utter. To be honest, that's the most annoying part, parents who are yet to realise that their job is to love their child unconditionally rather than to appease strangers in the street.
To strangers she is an annoying baby, to me she is the light of my life, a miracle from God and a gift. She cries like she's in pain for so many different reasons, but I can't lock her up in the house, never to feel the warmth of spring sun. Everywhere we go the commuters, the shoppers, the mom's who ought to know better, shoot us opinionated looks. Hardly a person in a thousand will stop to speak to us and even then the "advice" is hardly welcome. If they must engage with me then some understanding would be nice, some words of encouragement, a small display of empathy. She's a baby, she's annoying, but she's special too.
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